|—||Daniell Koepke (via womenaresociety)|
|—||Kristin Armstrong (via youuidiotkid)|
If ur feeling small today I dare you to sit up straighter, look someone who scares u directly in the eye, take up room at the dinner table, make yourself bigger, when ‘sorry’ laps at the back of your tongue, tries to pick up after you, remind yourself that your existence doesn’t demand an apology, that you are allowed to make mess and take up space, do not be afraid to expand. Every single goddamn minute. Expand, expand, expand
What the fuck is that, “act my age”?
What do I care how old I am?
The Ocean is old as fuck.
It will still drown your ass with vigor.
|—||the greatest thing i have ever read (via rauchwolken)|
-My dad. I’m 24, and asked if you ever shake the feeling of not being an adult, and this was his response. Probably the most comforting thing he could have said.
Your dad is damn right.
Lena Dunham (via thatkindofwoman)
This is so true that it hurts. And no matter how I want to shout look at my badass story when I didn’t write a single word of it… so, I have an absolute badass story which I can tell everyone about so go and ask me? Is it a good first step?
|—||Azra T. “Your hands are threads, your body is a canvas” (via cavum)|
i literally think myself into a bad mood. it’s not even intentional, it just happens. like one moment i’m happy and then the next i’m like oh fuck i feel annoying what if i’m annoying everyone what if everyone hates me i need to shut up or maybe i need to nap or maybe i just need to disappear for a while lslkdjskmwi
I get that way too. What has helped me is making very deliberate attempts to think positively. Not just saying “oh I need to think more positively” — because that just makes me feel bad for not being good enough at thinking positively (convoluted, right?). And since the negative thinking is unintentional, it’s much harder to catch myself and be like “wait no, that’s not right” when I don’t even realize I’m doing it.
But making a deliberate and focused effort is helpful for me. Like, once per day, write down what you’ve accomplished, or write down some good qualities that you have, or just tell yourself, “I am fucking awesome as hell and I am going to rule the universe and NO ONE CAN STOP ME.”
No seriously, I find that if I overreach like that every now and then and make my positive affirmations ridiculous, then I laugh and feel better.
These things are hard to do when you feel sad, but if you do them regularly, like when you wake up or before you go to bed, and make it a habit, you will notice that you start to feel more positively toward yourself. Slowly, over time. It’s easier said than done, but it helps a lot. =)
A counselor I had once said that thinking positively about yourself is like learning a new language, and it can feel clunky and weird and difficult at first. But if you keep at it, you become fluent. And sometimes when you’re stressed, you may slip back into that old language of negative thinking, but you’re aware of it. And you’ve built the skills necessary to return to your new, healthier way of thinking.
Sorry if this isn’t helpful, I just have felt this way too and thought maybe I’d add what’s been helpful to me in case it is to others as well.
|—||― Carlos Castaneda (via psych-quotes)|
Okay get ready for some caps and profanity because I’m gonna try and serve up some inspiration here man.
- Get in the state of mind you need to be in to write. Go for a walk, pour yourself some coffee, stay up until three if you don’t have work in the morning. I get more creative late at night, when I’m just tired enough that I stop worrying quite so much and get more creative.
- Warm up. In my experience, warming up is important before exercise, before drawing, and before writing. The first few steps or strokes or lines will feel wobbly and awkward, because you haven’t hit your stride yet. Set yourself up for doing your serious work when you’re warmed up. It’s fine if the warm up isn’t gold- it isn’t meant to be. Describe the room you’re in, describe a color, write the shittiest thing that you can- just have a bit of fun and get those keys or that pen moving.
- Say it with me now, while you write:
FIRST DRAFTS SUCK
FIRST DRAFTS SUCK
FIRST DRAFTS SUCK
You have my permission to fail. Give yourself permission to write something shitty, too- because otherwise you’ll stay locked in your comfort zone, which means you won’t learn new skills, and you’ll improve very, very slowly. What the fuck are you trying to do here, anyway? Write the great fucking American novel in your first go? Just chill out and write your goddamn thing, man, and have some fun with it, because it is scientific fact that you’re more creative when you’re just messing around and enjoying yourself than when you’re stressing out.
STRESSING OUT IS FOR THE EDITING PROCESS.
FIRST DRAFTS SUCK.
YOURS WILL TOO.
THAT IS OKAY.
JUST WRITE THE DAMN THING.
FAILING IS LEARNING.
- Toss it into a drawer once you reach a good stopping point/your wordcount goal/whatever you’re doing with your life (you’re not allowed to stop because you think it sucks, though, that’s called quitting). DON’T LOOK AT IT. Leave it. Let it marinate for a while. When a few days, a week, maybe a month has passed, pull it out and look it over. Either it’s better than you thought (yay!) or(and) you’ve got some editing to do. BUT YOU HAVE A THING TO EDIT!
Remember. You will write some shit. That doesn’t make you a shitty writer. I cannot tell you how many shitty drawings I’ve drawn- but I’ve got sketchbooks full of really really bad figure drawings from just this year alone. The trick is, rather than get in a funk about your bad pieces (guilty), you crumple them up and toss them outta the way like a badass. Because even when you feel like you’re just spinning wheels and turning out shit, I can pretty much guarantee that as long as you are working, you are learning and you are getting better. You won’t notice it at first- you won’t notice for a while, until you look back, and you think, ‘Hot damn, I’ve gotten way better than last year, last year’s work was shitty’. Thinking your old work is bad is good- that means you’ve gotten better.
SO GO WRITE, FRIEND! DO NOT FADE GENTLE FROM THIS FIGHT. WRITE, WRITE, INTO THE DYING OF THE LIGHT.